Andirr

Traveling for a bit! Currently in: Brasilia

Previously: Arlington, VA and Montevideo

ESL teacher, Masters student

“I’m forever torn between home and the illusion of home”

—   "Immigrant kids" -ten word story- By Hana (via thatkindofwoman)

(via thatkindofwoman)

Saturdays are for grilling 
#bbq #chicken #grill #brasilia

Most girls are relentlessly told that we will be treated how we demand to be treated. If we want respect, we must respect ourselves.

This does three things. Firstly, it gets men off the hook for being held accountable for how they treat women. And secondly, it makes women feel that the mistreatment and sometimes outright violence they face due to their gender is primarily their fault. And thirdly, it positions women to be unable to speak out against sexism because we are made to believe any sexism we experience would not have happened if we had done something differently.

I cannot demand a man to respect me. No more than I can demand that anybody do anything. I can ask men to be nice to me. But chances are if I even have to ask he does not care to be nice. I can express displeasure when I’m not being respected. But that doesn’t solve the issue that I was disrespected in the first place.

I can choose to not deal with a man once he proves to be disrespectful and/or sexist. But even that does not solve the initial problem of the fact that I had to experience being disrespected in the first place.

As a young girl, I wish that instead of being told that I needed to demand respect from men that I had been told that when I am not respected by men that it’s his fault and not mine. But that would require that we quit having numerous arbitrary standards for what it means to be a “respectable” woman. It would mean that I am not judged as deserving violence based on how I speak, what I wear, what I do, and who I am.

“Never give up on a dream because of the time it will take to accomplish it. The time will pass anyway.”

—   Earl Nightingale (via thatkindofwoman)

(Source: onlinecounsellingcollege, via thatkindofwoman)

“Stop beating yourself up. You are a work in progress - which means you get there a little at a time, not all at once.”

—   Unknown  (via thatkindofwoman)

(Source: onlinecounsellingcollege, via thatkindofwoman)

Rain proof, nap proof high bun
#highbun #bun #hairstyle
Love these men 

#friends #boyfriend #love (at Asa Sul)
March, 2014

March, 2014

“Some people feel like they don’t deserve love. They walk away quietly into empty spaces, trying to close the gaps of the past.”

—   Jon Krakauer, Into the Wild  (via thatkindofwoman)

(Source: splitterherzen, via thatkindofwoman)

First attempt at Lasagne. Top: finished version 
Bottom: book version 
Thanks for the help @arthur_ws ! 

#lasagne #homemade